DEAR ABBY: A friend and I attended a bridal shower of a friend's daughter. After the young woman opened her gifts, we were escorted to another room where blank note cards were strewn on a coffee table, surrounded by envelopes and stamps. The hostess instructed us to write on these folded cards our names and what we had given the bride-to-be.
The hostess told us to write: "Dear Mary (using our own names, of course), Thank you for the nice afghan" (or whatever we had given), and place the card in one of the envelopes. We were then told to address and stamp the envelopes, but not to seal them so (I assume) the "too busy" bride-to-be could sign her name.
As I foolishly followed these ridiculous instructions, I was tempted to thank myself for the 30-minute drive I had made in each direction to purchase a gift, and the 45-minute drive I made to attend the shower.
How stupid are we going to feel when the "thank-yous," in our own handwriting, show up in the mail? My son says I should refuse the letter.
And do you want to know the "topper"? I asked the bride-to-be before leaving when her wedding was. Get this -- it's in two days. I am not even invited to the wedding!
What's wrong with this generation? Please shed some light on this. Thanks, Abby. I feel better now that I've vented -- stupid, but better. -- FEELING USED IN KANSAS
DEAR FEELING USED: Nothing is wrong with "this generation." What you have described is a family that never learned basic good manners. Rather than an "afghan" -- or whatever your gift was -- the bride-to-be would have been better served to have received a book on etiquette.
My favorite holidays of the year are pretty untraditional. I love Cinco de Mayo, Independence Day, St. Patrick’s Day, etc. And I really love Ben and Jerry’s Free Cone Day! This holiday usually coincides with Earth Day (which is this coming Tuesday, April 22nd), but this year it falls on the 30th anniversary of Ben and Jerry’s: April 29th.
Mark your calendars!
I recently came across this book in Barnes and Noble; it has recipes for everything from a simple Sangria to the classic Mint Julep. Check it out for ideas on something to whip up in your cocktail shaker for this weekend!
We are trying to make our blog prettier, but are a bit stumped about how to do this. We don't want to do anything complicated- just move out of the blogger standard formatting. Does anyone have any suggestions for easy programs to use, or even a blog designer who is affordable (maybe a high school or college friend who does this in their spare time!)?
Thanks so much!
Farrell and Lauren
She is wondering….does a child’s first birthday really warrant a formal save the date, or should those be saved for occasions more like weddings? How “important” must an event be to be worthy of receiving a save the date in your mailbox?
I have heard many suggestions for keeping a bottle of champagne or prosecco bubbly in your fridge for a few days after opening, including dropped the handle of a metal spoon down the mouth of the bottle.
However, yesterday, I learned a new one while reading this article in Cooking Light. Apparently, adding a fresh raisin to the bottle a few moments before pouring will instantly revive the bubbles. I haven’t tried this yet, but fully intend to.
Does anyone else have any fun suggestions for prolonging the freshness of opened champagne?
When I wrote about Pottery Barn the other day, I received a lot of feedback from readers about alternative furniture sources. One reader emailed and told me about Home Decorators. This site features furniture that seems to be one step up from Ikea, with a lot more variety. Pictured above is a sideboard that could be used in so many different ways. The price? From $269 to $469 depending on size. -LG
On the menu:
Pink Rose Punch
Hummus, Crudite, and Pita Chips
Virginia Ham and Swiss Biscuits with Poppyseed Spread
Cocktail Meatballs (a favorite of the bride)
Brie and Grapes
Chicken Salad on miniature rolls
Greek Salad Skewers (my favorite)
Hot Crab Dip
Mini Carrot Cake Muffins with Cream Cheese Frosting
Toffee Almond Brownies
Cake with Raspberry Filling
Here’s a snapshot. Check out the creative cake a family friend made to go along with the bride’s beach theme.