A reader request regarding wedding gift etiquette:
If you are invited to a wedding but do not attend the wedding/reception, should you send a gift?
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6 comments:
I was raised to always send a gift, whether or not you attend: wedding, bridal shower, baby shower, etc. So, that is the rule I go by!
I agree. I always send a gift, regardless of if I can attend. I've found that not everyone plays by these rules. For instance, at our wedding, there were quite a number of guests -- both friends and family members -- who did attend who did not give gifts.
I believe in always sending a gift if you are invited to a party. I have a good question for you. If you are host a baby shower (and the hosts give a gift), do you also give a baby gift when the child arrives. My friends and I disagree on that one! I say yes, but many of them think the shower is enough.
Emily Post Says: 3. Send a gift.
If you are invited to the ceremony and/or reception, you should send a gift, whether you are attending or not. Generally, gifts are sent to the bride in advance of the wedding. In some localities, gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. If you hear from family that the couple would prefer a charitable donation—as in the case of an older couple or an encore wedding —please respect their wishes. If you receive an announcement after the wedding has taken place, you may send a gift if you wish, but you have no obligation to do so. It is nice to acknowledge the announcement with a card or a note expressing your best wishes.
Yes, you must still send a gift...XXOO
hmmmm, i think it depends. i almost always send a wedding gift whether i attend or not. but i can think of one case in particular, where i did not send a gift. but in that case, i really can't even tell you why i was invited to the wedding in the first place. i had not seen the bride in YEARS and we did not keep in touch. i was literally shocked when i got the invitation. i also sometimes don't send baby gifts to showers. unfortunately, most of the ones i have been invited to are just too far away for me to attend. so if i can't make the shower, i like to bring a gift personally when i meet the baby.
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