Toast the Host

Sometimes I feel like the art of hostess gifts is becoming lost in modern society. In my personal quest to revive the tradition of bringing hostess gifts when a guest in someone else's home, whether as a weekend guest or a party-invitee, here are some suggestions on what to bring without breaking the bank:

• The obvious bouquet of seasonal blooms. Try to avoid the $3.99 carnation mix at the entrance to the supermarket.
• Wine. A classic hostess gift. I try to put a little thought into it – pick something that you know appeals to your hostess, or something that has a great label ( I saw this in a Charlottesville sandwich shop this weekend and just had to pick it up for an event that my friend is hosting next week).
• A great candle. We know how I feel about Votivos. Note: Think about if your hostess LIKES scented candles before toting one over.
• Fun wine-stoppers. Monogrammed ones are great – check out Williams Sonoma and here for options.
• A small potted plant – these can be found at your local nursery, grocery store, or Trader Joe’s. A simple orchid is very impressive.
• Fabulous coaster set – I love these.

The key really is to think about what the hostess would like – what fits her personality? You don’t have to spend a lot; it really is the thought that counts.

What does plague me (and some of my friends, I have found out) is – do you write a thank you note for hostess gifts? I love thank you notes, but it does seem rather redundant to thank someone for thanking you. According to Peggy Post, a verbal thank you is enough. I think that a written note is in order only if the gift is above-and-beyond in nature. We would love to hear your feelings on this and any ideas for gifts that you might have!
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